This past year was a wild ride if ever I had one. It was not a typical year for me in terms of the choices I made, but I'm back to feeling myself and am quite a bit wiser.
It was a year of learning hard lessons.
The thing is, I had a few thorns in my side and no matter how hard I tried I could not understand why. So I followed some Taoist advice that I have recently shared with my son while putting together Lego sets.
Sometimes you have to break it in order to fix it.
Now I know what makes marriage last. Amazing that I had to get divorced to understand this.
Do you know? It is commitment. Seems obvious, right? Well, I did not understand this concept until recently.
Commitment does not have bottom lines. It is complete and without stipulation. A real marriage ends when someone dies and not before, no matter what the lawyers claim is possible.
I don't know if I'll ever get married, but if I do it will be a real commitment. I will hope for the best, but I will know that whatever comes my marriage will weather it because of my will; because I have made a commitment.
In marriages that last, there is no other common glue. There is commitment and that is all.
Having said that, let me share what I think I've learned is all you need for a happy marriage.
3. Sense of humor
4. Good sex
I believe this is the formula in order of importance. I don't think anything can be missing for real happiness, but I'm pretty sure you can get by for many years on 1 and 2 and certainly for many, many years on 1, 2 and 3.
I'll get back to food tomorrow.